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Beatrix's avatar

I listened to this yesterday and holy buckets did I need this tip/trick. Because youre exactly right, we get caught up in so many things that are actually not important but using this method we can get to the bottom of what we are hampster wheeling. Yas!

I just wanna say I find something meaningful and transformative in every single podcast you have done so far. Thank you for sharing your wisdom and light. 🥰

Asia Suler's avatar

I love that this landed for you Beatrix! And thank you so much for sharing this note about the podcast, it really means more than I can express. True wind beneath my wings.

Siobhan Kangataran's avatar

I loved listening to this yesterday while I pulled some weeds from the cracks in the paving of my garden. It felt so good to wrench some roots free while releasing the frustration I didn’t even realise I had been holding in my body. 😮‍💨

Asia Suler's avatar

Such a cathartic activity, ugh so good. Thanks for sharing here Siobhan 🌱

Siobhan Kangataran's avatar

Oh wow Asia, I just re-listened to this recording this morning after I realised I was caught in a loop a fear about “someone else getting credit for work I was doing to cover for their incompetence”. I tried the “So What” approach and ended up connecting with a part of mine from my Parentified Childhood?!?! This was so powerful! Thank you! xx

Robin's avatar

Thank you for this, Asia! Love it!

And HAPPY BIRTHDAY! What wonderful gifts you bring to this world. So grateful for all you share and all you do.

(Love seeing teenage Asia! So sweet!!)

Asia Suler's avatar

🥰🥰🥰 thank you!

Bradley's avatar

Great read! It is important to be reminded of this, especially for those that happen to take other people thoughts and feelings before our own.

Megan Medland's avatar

Happy Birthday, Asia! 🎉 I love this “so what?”/“is it true?” practice. Such a gift to the world. Thank you for sharing!! My trickster twist when I’m running late: (from the wise words of Gandalf the Grey) “A wizard is never late…he (she) arrives precisely when he (she) means to!” Never fails to lighten my mood and remind me of my badass powers. 😉 Perhaps I’m exactly where I need to be in this moment! I become instantly empowered vs victimized and things almost always open up. I either end up magically being on-time or my “lateness” feels exactly as it should be…. 🕊️

Asia Suler's avatar

Ah that Gandalf quote is the best!!! I needed to remember that today. Thank you and bless you Megan!

Don McClure's avatar

Good job Asia.

My father had two expressions that taught me that true change begins by looking inward for solutions.

·      Whenever I would get annoyed about something in the world, he would say:

·      “Sounds like a personal problem to me.”

·      Other times when I would escalate to anger and carry on, he would say:

·      “You know you have the same clothes to get glad in.”

This has helped me many times in getting to the “so what”.

A Tender Revolt's avatar

Im very eager to get bossed and sassed by this energy. Also... 40th* year ❤️‍🔥

Elizabeth P.'s avatar

Great timing as I have been dealing with the "heavy layers of people-pleasing and overaccommodating we often find ourselves muffled under" this month! Thank you. What a relief to take a bit of a light approach. Love the teen photo! To all our sassy teens. 💖

Asia Suler's avatar

I feel that relief too, Elizabeth. Thank you so much for being here. And yesss, so much love to all our sassy teens!!

Sally's avatar

The reference to the days when this was a popular response made me think of another millennial phrase from back in the day with similar energy: "talk to the hand cuz the face don't wanna listen"

Asia Suler's avatar

Ohhh YEAH!!!! That one had staying power (actually, can we bring it back?? it's kinda fire).

Carolyn_alina's avatar

Happy Birthday! I'm celebrating you and the sweet gifts you bring to the world through your amazing courses with a Strawberry Matcha latte :)

Asia Suler's avatar

Thank you so much Carolyn!!!! Your note is so deeply felt and appreciated.

Jiluna's avatar

Happy Birthday, Asia!

Barbara Sinclair's avatar

Happy Happy Birthday, dear Asia! You are a beauty inside and out. I trust there will be 🥔 chips??

🎉🌸🎂🥔🧚🩷